Andrew S contrasted the attitudes of John Dehlin and Dan Wotherspoon using a quote that illustrates this week’s LDS topic:
Itâ€™s not just these isolated positive emotional experiences that I had, that you have had, that others have hadâ€¦itâ€™s the fact that those are tied to an institution that brings vulnerable people â€” and I will say vulnerable, whether itâ€™s investigators that are ignorant to many of these things, or young children that are brought up in it and thenâ€¦getâ€¦you knowâ€¦the young kid who masturbates and then is shamed or the gay person or whateverâ€¦they then get confronted with really difficult, sometimes toxic, and even life-ending situations because the book and the spiritual experiences are tied so tightly â€” before youâ€™re able to become Dan Wotherspoon when youâ€™re 40 with a Ph.D. and throw nuance at everything, you may have tried reparative therapy and committed suicide; you may have entered into a marriage where you then donâ€™t believe anymore and the wife is taking the kids away; you may have, instead of pursuing a Ph.D. as a female, you may have married some guy and had five kids and now the future that you really would have chosen wasnâ€™t really made available to you. And for me, the connection with the institution make full disclosure and the stakes of difficulty much more significant.
And don’t forget about missionary trauma (including the stigma of coming home early) and creating disorders in order to offer a cure — not to mention the stuff they’re teaching the girls and women about their worth as individuals.
Kiwi Mormon explained 50 Shades of Grey as an allegory of Mormonism:
HE is a menacing, powerful male protagonist with an impenetrable heart, immune to the advances of floozies and flirts. He finds himself aroused by the deferent and inexperienced girl who, eyes downcast, works wordlessly and sacrificially for the greater good.
SHE is not a shrew and neither does she make demands â€“ sheâ€™s a virgin girl; naÃ¯ve and pure â€“ and her innocence stirs him into a frenzy of feeling. He must claim her and possess her because she is the silk to his linen, she is the curve to his angles, the softness to his hardness.
At least Chelsey Sidler-Lartey shared an affirming tattoo.
In other church news, a treasure-digging cave dug by Joseph Smith was recently found, and we have the tale from the pen of the explorer!
The folks of the exmo reddit did a bit of informal research on “soaking”, and it turns out that, yeah, it’s not real. It’s like the whole gerbil thing. It got traction as a legend because, hey, wouldn’t it be pruriently awesome to imagine that people are doing something so messed-up…?! Sadly, not real.
In commentary, Mithryn continued his “40 talks in 40 days” series with The Lord is my Light and Dallin H. Oaks’ talk Look for the Possibility of Bias (a talk which has others suggest he look in the mirror). Mormons have some reasons to have pope envy.
As a follow-up to his Stewart Udall series, Thinker of Thoughts posted an inspiring series of people from various religious backgrounds who stood up civil rights.
If you’re in Seattle, you’ll want to attend the premiere of upstairs Inferno — a film that examines the same tragedy Johnny Townsend described in his book Let the Faggots Burn. In other book news, It’s Not about the Sex, my Ass continues to get good reviews. Knotty reviewed a book about a kinky exmo. And Alex Hansen’s book (which I reviewed earlier) reached #1 in Amazon’s LDS-interest free downloads!!
In life journeys, Zelph on the Shelf compiled a list of reasons for leaving, Monica offered a snapshot of shared custody, Aerin is learning new tricks, and Novus Homo’s daughter wrote about her step-dad’s cancer.
It’s been a fairly relaxed week here in Switzerland. Good thing the world didn’t end, I guess. See you next week, if the blood moon doesn’t finish us all off! 😉