About ten days ago, I published a post on my blog (invictuspilgrim.blogspot.com) entitled An Overwhelming Emptiness. It was Daves story, the story of his struggle to come to terms with his sexuality and identity in a Mormon mixed-orientation marriage (MoMoM). Then, on Wednesday of this past week, I published another…
Category: Family
My place in Mormon history
A lot of people — upon leaving the CoJCoL-dS — are amazed to discover how fascinating LDS church history really is. It’s not just that the whitewashed history in Sunday School is incomplete and inaccurate. It’s that you’re force-fed this watery-porridge version of church history that inoculates many people from…
The Toll: Inside a Mormon Mixed-Orientation Marriage
Losing you [when you joined the church] was like a guillotine blade that beheaded the loving richness I had in my life. [After you joined the church] I saw you withdraw from life. The relationship between your withdrawal from life and your involvement in the church appeared to be proportionally…
Why Would Heavenly Father Do That?
This now-infamous question (slightly paraphrased) posed by President Boyd K. Packer at this past October Conference will, I think, reverberate in the minds of many church members for years to come and not just with respect to sexual orientation. I cant help thinking that Elder Packer may for many members…
Forever vs. Family; Rules vs. Relationships
By way of introduction, I am a gay Mormon, who also happens to be (currently) married and a father. I started the coming out process last fall, and my wife and I are currently in the process of separating with plans to eventually divorce. Even before recently coming to terms…
Exodus: A Gay Mans Journey Out of Marriage and Mormonism
My world changed forever on Sunday, October 3, 2010. That morning, I heard four sentences that wrecked my faith in Mormonism, shattered my marriage and destroyed a false persona that I had carefully maintained for most of my adult life. These words, which quickly became infamous, were uttered by the…
Sunday in Outer Blogness: Holy Matrimony, Batman!
Yep, everyone is talking about marriage this week! From those ever stare–worthy polygs, to Rock’s thoughtful history of the rise of the temple wedding, to the sacredness of jumping into marriage before it’s too late! The Segullah Book Club analyzes the innocence of the bride on the way in, Jana…
A noteworthy pair of serial answers to Dallin H. Oaks and Robert P. George
Alan Westermark @ Scrum Central: Oaks Rebutted, Chapter One: New Mexico photographer; Oaks Rebutted, Chapter Two: New Jersey pavilion; Oaks Rebutted, Chapter Three: Illinois and Wisconsin professors; Oaks Rebutted, Chapter Four: Georgia and Michigan grad students; Oaks Rebutted, Chapter Five: The Valiant Little Pastor; Oaks Rebutted, Chapter Six: Catholic Charities…
Racialized Domestic Servitude and the Perfect Mormon Housewife
One thing I’ve been reading about recently is the split in the 1970s of white feminism from feminisms of color. One of the main sources of the split comes from the topic of domestic servitude. While white women wanted to get out of the home by the 1970s, the gendered…
Sunday in Outer Blogness: Diverse People, Diverse Families Edition!
The highlight of this week has been the series by Invictus Pilgrim on the subject of being gay and Mormon (especially the experience of men who are in, have been in, or are thinking of getting into a mixed-orientation marriage). He has not only discussed his own experience, but has…