Sunday in Outer Blogness: The Return!
Hi folks, I’m back!! When we last checked in with the church PR leaders, they were huffily, grudgingly sticking with the Boy Scouts as their youth program (and continuing their policy of ignoring girls).
On immigration the right-wingers also have the opportunity to be out-of-sync with a political position held by the CoJCoL-dS:
This is the Churchâ€™s position on immigration in the United States, which means that deporting all undocumented immigrants, and breaking up families in the process, is NOT the Churchâ€™s position on immigration in the United States. If you are a Latter-day Saint in the United States, and you favor deporting all undocumented immigrants who are already here, then you support something that the Church opposes. And if you do not believe that undocumented immigrants should be allowed to square themselves with the law and continue to work, then you oppose something that the Church supports.
It looks like general conference talks are well on their way to being elevated to the level of scripture! (Which is great considering the quality of scripture.) Mithryn reported that a lot of members are taking a 40 day challenge to read 40 General Conference talks (or Ensign articles) in preparation for General Conference — and has decided to take the challenge! He’s already produced an impressive series of posts analysing conference talks.
In personal stuff, the atheist Mormon housewife experienced a miracle, J G-W answered charges of Stockholm Syndrome, Greasyslothy recounted being raped (and having an abortion), Monica is starting to date again, Uomo Nuovo is visiting Venice, Ren visited the Minnesota State Fair, Commander Zelph’s bishop helped him find a friend, and Chelsey Sidler-Lartey discussed mental illness (with strategies for choosing life).
However, we watched a clip of David Bednar addressing some general authority group talking about the demographic that most frequently leaves the church and he made a statement to the effect that if teenagers (the aforementioned group) leave the church itâ€™s because of inadequate gospel teaching and living in the home. To me, this was nothing more than a serving of guilt-pie. But the kind that Iâ€™ve grown accustomed to ignoring.
But then I looked at my wife sitting next to me as she tried unsuccessfully to hold back tears of pain as she wrote a note to herself: â€œWe said family prayer. We went to church. We did family home evening. We did weekly service projects during the summer and holiday season. We read scriptures, and my son left the church. WHAT ELSE CAN I DO? We taught him to think for himself. We taught him to ask questions and not accept easy answers to difficult questions. I taught him to use his agency. I would NEVER change that. Does he make choices that are different than the ones I might have chosen? Yes. But does that make those choices wrong? NO.â€
Looking at my beloved suffer was more than I could bear, so I raised my hand.
They say there are five stages of mourning: shock, denial, anger, depression and acceptance. For the young men and women leaving the ultra-Orthodox world behind, there is an enormous loss. It is easy for those outside to think that now you are free; your life so much better than when you were among the colorblind. But it is still an enormous loss. That loss carries everything we ever believed, and everyone who taught us to believe it: parents who loved us, teachers who educated us, siblings who played with us, cousins and classmates and former best friends. Our loss holds in it entire families. It holds our faith, innocence and belief.
And it is devastating.
Eventually, you meet others like you, emerging like shadows from the dark: a former classmate, a second cousin, the quiet girl from summer camp. Youâ€™ve seen them before, walking the streets of your city, but you could not tell back then that they were different from the others â€” that they pretended not to see colors, too.
In not-quite-Mormon news items, I’m sure you’ve heard about the government clerk refusing to follow the law w.r.t. same-sex marriage licenses. Well Runtu imagined what it would be like if it had happened at the DMV. And if you’re curious to know more about how drag works in relation to the transgender community, meli wrote a really interesting piece discussing the complexity of this issue. In other trans perspectives, an author (who is perhaps trans?) argued that “Bruce Jenner is a crossdresser, not transgendered.”
And everyone, thanks for your patience — it has been a crazy week here at Main Street Plaza. Not only did I modify the SiOB schedule a bit, but we had that commenting problem, which is probably why the discussion on ProfXM’s Orson Scott Card post didn’t take off. Weirdly, in just the past couple of weeks I’ve started feeling curious to read “Ender’s Game.” Any opinions?