Leave The Light On
I was privileged today to witness a speech given by the Mayor of San Diego, CA, Jerry Sanders.
You can watch the speech for yourself here. I suggest you do, it’s very moving. In a heartfelt declaration, he announced that after searching his heart, he decided that he would be signing a resolution in support of gay marriage. He campaigned under the banner of “civil unions”, feeling that was a fair alternative to marriage for ‘the gays’. He knew that several members of his staff were gay, but after learning that his own daughter was a lesbian, he was moved to change his position because, he said, he could not see himself denying members of his community the same rights as everyone else.
I applaud the mayor’s change of heart, but it brought me back to home, here in the Land of Zion. Personally, I never (never) plan on remarrying. I don’t think marriage is for me. But it’s something that I have taken for granted, and wonder what it would be like to have a love for someone and be denied the privilege of declaring that love to them and the world via that particular ceremony/ritual.
I think about own neck of the woods. If Gordon B. had a daughter or son who was gay, would we see him on a podium, in earnest and open humility telling the world not only that he had a gay child, but that from here on out, the LDS Church will embrace people in the gay community?
At the risk of projecting, I venture a resounding ‘no’. It causes me to wonder how many GA’s have gay children who have either been ousted from the family, or kept in check by fear. My heart aches for those who are simply….who they are, and are shamed and vilified for it. God created us all, according to conventional Christian teachings, so why would God make a ‘boo-boo’ such as homosexuality? Oh that’s right, it’s a choice. But wait, Gordon and some others have come right out and said that they don’t know if it’s genetic or not. So which is it guys?
The most hurtful thing that the contemporary church has done, in my opinion, is actively campaign against gay marriage. How many lives, children, relationships have been destroyed by their fear and hate mongering? No, families are not forever; only families who fit under a certain blanket of behavior fit in that mold. Those who are outside of it are made to know it early on.
I know how it feels to be on the outside of a family, a community. But I don’t know how it is to be openly gay in my family or community. I do know, however, how the treatment of gays can be. To live under that kind of yoke is beyond unbelievable. Even though the gay community has found a community, they are still actively demoted in the eyes of ‘Christians’ and churches everywhere.
I am glad the mayor of San Diego has changed his mind. It’s just too bad it had to hit close to home for him to see the light. Unfortunately, homosexuality has hit home in the LDS Church, and the Church has chosen to shut off the porch light.
It’s a crying shame.
Labels: community, family, gay marriage, LDS Church, Mormonism, Mormons
posted by JulieAnn Henneman from Ravings of a Mad Woman