1. I can sleep in Sunday mornings (as much as I can with twin two year olds) – I decide which church, volunteer activities I attend when I have the energy.
2. I remain a good, law-abiding, voting citizen and active in my community. I may be more active in my community now that I’m not spending 10 plus hours per week on LDS activities.
3. I can donate as much or as little to any charities I’d like. And they send me an annual report so I know exactly where the money is going to.
4. I can decide what I want to drink and if I want to drink. This goes for alcohol, soda, tea, coffee, etc.
5. I can read what I want when I want to. I decide if it’s appropriate for me or not.
6. I can watch whatever I want to watch – see item 5 above.
7. I don’t constantly worry that Satan is out to tempt me – or that with each sip of coffee or rated R movie I’m going to hell.
8. I don’t have to put on a false front – be happy all the time because everyone is watching me (everyone is a potential convert).
9. I decide if I want to get married, if I want to have kids and how many kids I want to have. These decisions are up to me and my spouse – no one else needs to be involved. I didn’t have a narrow set of criteria for a potential spouse either. Love, not religious membership, was my first concern.
10. I can have relationships with friends and family regardless of their religious affliation (this goes for active mormons as well).
11. I don’t have to explain or apologize for who I am. I do as much as I can and try not to feel guilty for what I don’t have the energy to do.
12. I don’t have be super woman/mom and be everything to every one – with every hair in place and with quiet, well-behaved kids and spouse.