This time it’s Marisa and Carson Calderwood:
We have received the decision from our Stake Presidency about our disciplinary court and it states that we are apostates. This is a title we wear with honor! Yes, we are apostates! We are proud to have been kicked out of an organization that values obedience over truth finding. We love our Mormon family and friends and recognize that there are many good things in Mormonism, but if it chooses to value certain things that we are morally opposed to, then yes, we are happy to stand up for those values and be cut out of our tribe. We are sad that they have chosen to do this, to isolate themselves from those that want to help make it a better place. Those that choose seeking for truth over protecting their image because in the end, the truth will set us free!
It felt a bit like a break-up. It was as though I had a boyfriend named Church. He and I were in a long-term relationship, with an extended honeymoon phase that felt practically perfect in every way. And then there were some tough times, which I thought we had figured out pretty well. And then there was one very sudden, serious turning point, where it became clear that this relationship was not working for me.
The break-up analogy gets kind of fuzzy at this juncture. If Iâ€™d encountered a turning point like this with my husband, I would surely have talked to him about it, said, â€œHereâ€™s a big problem, we need to figure this out. What can we both do differently?â€ I canâ€™t do that with Church.
“When religious people are publicly intimidated, retaliated against, forced from employment or made to suffer personal loss because they have raised their voice in the public square, donated to a cause or participated in an election, our democracy is the loser.” -Elder Dallin H. Oaks
I fully agree with the above statement by Elder Oaks. Likewise, our Church is the loser when church leaders retaliate and force out church members who voice concerns in public.
It also took me back to a moment nearly 10 years ago when my bishop was giving me a blessing in my dining room while my husband sat in jail for online enticement of a minor. He told me not to make any hasty decisions, to consider forgiveness, to remember my covenants. Iâ€™d been hearing this line from the bishop since a couple months into my marriage. I was done. How fucked up would a kid have to be to meet a middle aged stranger for sex? And he was ready to take advantage of that for his own gratification. Last damn straw. 3 days later I was sitting in the temple doing initiatories and I watched the concept of God Iâ€™d clung to my whole life unravel, recognizing that â€œEndure to the endâ€ was in and of itself a form of abuse with no certainty of a payoff.
I was initially surprised to read that Josh Duggarâ€™s wife knew of his grievous acts before they were married and still stayed with him. But then I think about all the red flags and problems I forgave because of the message I was getting. Thanks, Christianity. Now I just feel sorry for her â€“ and their kids. Statistically, the odds are he has acted out again or will.
Which leads me to what *might* have helped me and what I wish would happen for all kids: EDUCATION,EDUCATION,EDUCATION
Sadly the CoJCoL-dS gets it exactly backwards: girls at camp get to learn that — even when they’re supposed to be just having fun with outer girls — they should not forget for an instant about covering up their bodies.
We believe in Jesus Christâ€¦yes that Jesus Christ
So, in case you weren’t clear on which Jesus Mormons believe in, it’s the California surfer-Jesus.
Actually, this has been a great week for church watch and related commentary! “Doubt” is the new ambiguous term! Nearing Kolob has continuing coverage of news from the mission field including the “Exact Obedience”-loving mission president — in a surprise move he blames the missionaries’ unfaithfulness for lack of baptisms. Seth Payne caught an apologist behaving badly. Book of Mormon archaeology is an example of a hypothesis that lacks evidence, which is perhaps why the CoJCoL-dS has started de-emphasizing the scriptures. Christopher Smith discussed new research on the history of Mormonism’s connections with race while Andrew S explained it with a tax-accounting analogy. And Thinker of Thoughts documented the bold redaction of Emma Smith.
In Theology, RJH tried to make sense of the atonement and the Gospel Doctrine lesson tried to make sense of prayer. Daniel Midgley also improved on a popular meme. In life journeys, David Tweede played a game of pretending to go back to Mormonism. And in interfaith interactions, Mormonism can be detrimental to your ability to socialize with non-Mormons.
Perhaps you’ve heard the news that Ireland became the first nation to approve same-sex marriage by a popular vote! Same-sex marriage is already law in most of the US, which allowed Just Jill to marry her love of nearly 20 years, which she mentioned in a post where she also discussed some remarks I’d made about the connection between marriage and religion.
And in not-quite-Mormon-related, Nurse Mommy is preparing for a marathon, Froggie’s making Caramel Apple Oatmeal and exploring gardens, Andrew Hackman reviewed Supergirl, a man is recovering from an unprovoked attack, and Adult Onset Atheist has another fun Hugo review!
Well, it’s time for bed here in Switzerland. Yay for long weekends!! Plenty of time for reading. 😀