Woman and mormon motherhood
In the Salt Lake Tribune this morning, Peggy Fletcher Stack wrote an article highlighting the challenges the LDS church leadership faces in trying to adhere to theology like the Proclamation of the Family when advising a progressively diverse range of women.Â
The dichotomy between the traditional mothering figure and the modern career-oriented female is not a stranger to those of us females who were raised in the church.Â Â This dichotomyÂ gets stronger and more pronounced the more the peripheral society empowers women.Â Â As mentioned in the article, the church often gives conflicting and confusing advice to women.Â President Hinckley advised the young women to go out, get an education, and then Sister Beck last year again reimphasized the traditional role of setting your goal to be a baby-bearing mother whose life’s purpose and fulfillment is tied up in daughters with curly hair and sons with ironed shirts.
Â Why oh why don’t they leave women alone instead of trying to direct them towards one true femalehood?Â Is there not a single female in church women leadership who has simultaneously had to have a job and care for a family?Â Are they incapable of understanding how very hollow it is to be raised with the message “find your potential, be the best you can be” and then act ignorant when the same potentialized woman does not find fulfillment in changing diapers and cleaning toilets all day because that is not the arena where she chose to let her previous life talent shine?Â Is itÂ that difficult to understand how a woman with a masters in biology is going to feel undirected andÂ purposeless to be sitting at the park with another mom discussing last night’s adventures of insomnia and the morning potty-training relapse?
Â The women of the world are intelligent.Â The young women of the church are intelligent.Â Let them find and fulfill their personalÂ dreams based on their innate talents and skills instead of trying to convince them of what their dream should be based on what you feel God’s plan is for them.Â To advise anything less is to demeanÂ their individuality.Â Not every female was born to be a mom.Â And she should not feel bad, within her own religion, because she is not one.Â It is biology that propels a woman toward childbearing, not God.