Get a Hammer and a Nail…
After the recent comments in chanson’s thread, I decided to copy this post from FLAK.
I am interested in finding out what it is about the raid that people are so passionate about. I will state my theories below my proposal.
And – as chanson did in one of her recent posts (on her blog;), I’d like to quote the Indigo Girls’ song “Hammer and Nail”:
Gotta get out of bed get a hammer and a nail
Learn how to use my hands, not just my head
I think myself into jail
Now I know a refuge never grows
From a chin in a hand in a thoughtful pose
Gotta tend the earth if you want a rose.
This is going to sound like an LDS Sacrament meeting talk – I hope everyone will forgive the analogy and not immediately ignore it (LDS and non LDS).
If you are indeed inflamed with passion about this topic – I challenge you to stop merely posting about it on the internet.
*It’s time to write letters to your elected officials about your feelings.
*It’s time to write letters to the editor. Study child protection laws and the laws governing CPS.
*Study why CPS was created in the first place.
*Find out about the real statistics of child (and spousal) abuse within the U.S. and other western nations.
*Support (either yourself or through monetary contributions) foster parents.
*Find out how to support the fLDS children.
*Write your bishop and SP (since you’re not supposed to write the General Authorities in SLC) and ask them to donate LDS time and tithing funds to what’s going on.
*Write your charitable organizations of choice (religion, etc.) and ask that the families be supported.
*Heck, support the fLDS legal defense fund – if you believe the children have all been unjustly taken.
Any and all of these actions would make a difference. It might just be a drop in the bucket – but it will be a drop none the less.
It’s easy to sit back and spew rhetoric on the internet. I know, I do it ALL THE TIME. It’s much more difficult to stick your neck out and act. It’s much more difficult to back away from the keyboard and actually volunteer your time. Or, to sit back and think about why the raid is pushing your buttons. When we figure out why we feel how we do, what fear lies behind our anger – it makes our arguments even stronger.
I’m not trying to imply that posters in any of the current threads have NOT been taking the above actions.
I’m simply saying that if you haven’t, now is the time.
I have been very interested over the past week to read the many, varied responses (here and elsewhere) to what happened (and is happening) to the fLDS.
I’m not trying to get into (another) discussion about whether or not the raid was wrong, and whether or not the allegations of abuse are true. I don’t want to get into a discussion about the U.S. foster care system or CPS. Or whether or not polygamy is inherently s_exist (polygamy/polygny, one man married to multiple women with very strict gender roles, religious beliefs and subjugation).
What I want to figure out is why it’s bringing out such strong emotions in me – and also in other people on the net. Granted, it’s not difficult to push my buttons – and I’m sure for other people, it’s easy to get them worked up as well.
Here are my guesses:
So obviously, it’s hitting the family/children button for most people. The thought that cps/the government could potentially take away your child or a loved one’s child is a big deal.
Many posters (like on feminist mormon housewives) seem to be up in arms about a mother being removed from her baby when she’s nursing. Bringing up all sorts of buttons/issues for people who believe motherhood is sacred, nursing is a number one priority, childhood is sacred and the parent/child relationship should never be put at risk. Sometimes, I can’t tell if there’s an “even if the child is at risk of abuse” caveat there (not all posters, just one or two in particular).
It’s also hitting the freedom of religion thing, that many people feel passionate about.
It’s definitely hitting the legality of the raid – whether or not the government has over-reached themselves. Unlawful search and seizure and all that. I will be very surprised if there is enough evidence of direct physical abuse for all 437/462 children – but who knows. And we have had the U.S. government participate in some questionable raids over the years. I believe strongly in civil rights – so that might be a hot button for some of us.
And I know that some of the emails that I’ve seen about potential adoptions of these children – just seem to flame the fires of emotion.
Is it the size of the raid?
Is it descriptions of alleged abuse that a person might have read that could have taken place (like Flora and Carolyn Jessop’s descriptions?). I know that some of those descriptions have kept me up at night recently.
Is it (for some of us descendants of polygamists) the thought that we could have been in this situation had things occurred differently?
Just curious what your thoughts are. I’m just trying to figure out why this has such strong emotions associated with it for many people.