I would especially like to highlight one heart-rending story of the consequences of teaching kids to be ashamed to be gay:
And that in an environment like that, it’s not hard to see how a little boy with his first erection would allow his personality to bifurcate: Jay and R.J. That he would develop a psyche in which, as far as anyone would know, he was straight, because he was—on the outside at least. It’s not hard to imagine that he would look for some way, any way, to get himself out of the “trap” of homosexuality. To “choose” to be straight, even if it meant inventing a persona who really didn’t exist, repressing the real self deep into shadow of the soul, and naming the persona the “real” self. It wouldn’t occur to such a little boy that he was lying to himself—only that he was “choosing” the right. And it certainly wouldn’t occur to the 23 year old boy I married that he was lying to me.